Ever have something big happen – usually something bad or dramatic (but this observation is also the same if it’s good) that you found yourself telling everyone about?
What happens when you do? Did you notice that an energy built around it?
Especially on social media, you tell all your friends and they respond, and then their friends respond, and it gets bigger and bigger.
This is especially true of big problems or tragedy, when emotions are involved, or someone has wronged you.
You tell more and more people and the more you tell, the bigger the story becomes. Maybe you share it word for word, but it’s the emotion that gets higher and higher!
What if you didn’t tell anyone about it?
What if you just quietly went about making it right where required, but didn’t tell anyone?
Kept it quiet, just solved the problem. Have you ever done that?
If so, you would have noticed that the energy was entirely different.
I guarantee that you could take a situation, and handle it two very different ways and get two very different results, just by making it a big deal or no deal at all.
Same facts, same situation, different response.
It’s part of being a human; we want to align ourselves with other people like us and part of that process is building a tribe of like-minded friends.
When we share stories and work to elicit emotions in others, we then gain momentum and justification for our own emotions and identify with those that agree with us.
The problem is, sometimes we get lost in the drama and instead of working on a solution we end up making things worse than they really are.
It’s why people love to complain about the weather as a first step in conversation, particularly between strangers or people you don’t know well.
It’s a safe bet that everyone is grumpy about the cold, cold winter we have had, and all the snow is well – insert whatever negative opinion you have here.
Chances are you will immediately find a sympathetic person to jump on board your rant and off you go into the energy bliss!
Sure, occasionally you may complain about all the snow and cold weather to a person who LOVES it, and guess what? It falls flat! No alignment, no drama, so you find a new topic.
But how can we use this in our favour?
How do we build energy towards something we want instead of building drama around something we don’t?
What about setting a great set of goals around health and fitness and then surrounding yourself with amazing people up to the same thing?
Each week you share progresses, successes, photos, share food recipes, tips, tricks, go to classes together and cheer each other on.
How does that change everything? From my experience as a trainer for 20 years, a LOT!
Now you are building an energy in the direction you want to go! Now everyone is winning!
Gathering people to you through an excited discussion around moving forward and getting stronger, and more fit! Each success builds to another success and the inspiration grows!
What if you made success a big deal?
And problems, well, what if you just dealt with them and never even mentioned them?
They would have no energy, become powerless and minor. If you do not complain about the weather, nothing changes and you don’t lose any energy.
What if instead, you gave all of your big energy to things you wanted to happen, and people you wanted in your life and none of it to the things that annoyed you and you wanted to just go away.
Sure, taxes and bad government may never go away, but getting all angry and talking about it won’t change anything, it will just steal your energy.
Make your best life a big deal and give it all the energy you can! Handle your problems and never say a word about them.
Then watch the magic unfold!
Scott McDermott is a personal trainer and the owner of Best Body Fitness in Sylvan Lake.